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The Real Me- Some Brutal Honesty



This has been a rough couple of weeks, well to be honest a rough couple of years. Yesterday threw us another couple curve balls and it looks like it is going to be a while before things get back to normal. Whatever that is.


I had trouble sleeping last night with a million things going through my brain. You know the random thoughts that your brain decides in the middle of the night would be a good time to ponder. Going down a bunch of seemingly unrelated rabbit holes. It is easy to get swept into those holes and get buried in all the things that are troubling you. That is where I was headed.


It has happened before and probably to most of us. Sometimes trying to figure out how to dig out of the hole seems like a huge effort. The more you try to dig, the more holes seem to open. So there you are in the middle of the night more upset than before you went to bed.


This time though my brain went in a different direction.


I have an acquaintance that is going through something that I cannot imagine in my worst nightmare. Something that she had no control over but now has to deal with for a very very long time. She had such a fun, happy spark before. Always friendly and smiling. It is all gone now. She is a different person and for good reason. I hope she eventually gets that spark back but it will take a long time- mine did. And I still have to work at it every single day.


I realized last night that as much as I am dealing with now, someone has it worse. And some are dealing with tough things alone whether they choose to because they think no one would understand or because it feels like no one is there. Either way, that is a terrible way to feel. I know, I have been there.


So why am I putting this all out there on our Adventure Ladies page?


First, I want you to know that you are not alone. It is fun going to these adventures and posting all the smiling photos. But I wonder how many of us are actually hurting and NEED the distractions and connection to other women.


How many of you joined this group and have never participated because it seems too hard even though deep down you know it would do you good to get out and play? That is exactly why I started this group. We all need connection as women. And we need new experiences, laughing and more fun in our lives!


While I am bearing my soul here, I might as well tell you that I completely understand how awkward it feels to come to an adventure especially by yourself. I know it might seem strange to some of you, but I am actually very much an introvert.


In the beginning of our group, some of the adventures were super overwhelming to me and honestly sometimes still are. But after each and every one, I feel so lucky to be forming these amazing friendships and sharing these experiences.


I started this group in the beginning just to find a couple of people to go kayaking with and it has turned into so so so much more. The loss that I went through last summer could have brought me down for a very very long time. I stopped our adventures for a while to try to get myself together. That was not a good idea. My rabbit hole started getting bigger and bigger. After a short time, my husband insisted I start our group again even if I did not feel like it. Thank God.


This group helped me drag myself out of a dark place. The support I have had, and the true friendships mean the world to me.


And I want you all to feel that as well. This is so much more than parties, laughing and a good time. It is about community.


If you are finding it difficult to come to an adventure that you really want to join- TELL ME!!!!!!


If you worked up the courage to get a ticket and are shy or know it is difficult for you to engage with people- TELL ME!!!!!


We have so many amazingly supportive ladies in this group. So, grab a ticket and message me. Tell me you are nervous and I will pair your up with an adventure buddy. You are not alone!!!


Don’t sit on the sidelines anymore. You deserve to smile and have fun- never forget that.


Big hugs,

Rhonda




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PAMELA BAKER
PAMELA BAKER
10 déc. 2023

I am a trauma survivor. I am single probably will never marry. I joined to meet people. It is hard for me to trust. I am taking a leap to go on the February trip to Florida. I just moved to Texas. I really want friends to do things with.

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I’ve been a little reluctant to participate because I’m so much older than most of you. It is tough to come into a new group where you don’t know anyone so thank you so much for being so encouraging.

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I’m in my 60s. You are not alone! 🤗

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Jennifer Krips
Jennifer Krips
20 juin 2023

I’m coming to the glamping and tubing event this weekend. I’m new in town and don’t know anyone! I’m not shy, but can be a little reserved until I get the hang of the social dynamic. I’m also going through a brutal 2 year long divorce and I NEED distraction and some fun new friendships. Thank you for your honesty in sharing your own feelings here. It really does make it easier and more welcoming to us new gals. Really looking forward to a fun weekend with y’all!

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I really loved reading this warm, open, and heartfelt post. I’ve been an introvert since childhood, but learned to be more outgoing as I grew up. I used to love going out exploring new places and new things! Work stress and married life over the years have slowed me down, and I don’t have much motivation anymore or time due to my workload. I’m turning 49yo in a couple months, and I feel like I really need a big change in 2023. It was a very tough year quitting my job and starting a new one. I know things could always be worse and I’m always grateful for our blessings. I didn’t picture my life like this, and I’m still…

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Erika Boylan
Erika Boylan
22 nov. 2022

Those were very powerful words. Thank you for sharing that. I can relate with everything you said. I am very much an introvert, too. I am semi-retired at 55. But now I feel a little bit lost. It’s really hard for me to get started. I did sign up and get tickets for the Christmas lights coming up. I  look forward to meeting new people. This will be good for me. Thank you for setting up the group and thank you for your heartfelt honesty. 

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